I spoke to P yesterday, trying to find out if he is going to come down here for Easter weekend. It sounds like he may! (has to take the bus tho)
But in the course of the conversation, it comes out that he is royally PISSED at his dad! See, for the last year, he's been promising the boys that he was going to buy this condo for just the two boys to live in. They actually should have been in it by now, except that in the beginning stages it had burned down. Anyway, I got to see the cement basement last Sept. when I was there, and the finished ones from the outside. The kids were so excited about getting into this place. It was to be a 2 bedroom 2 storey end unit. They had picked out which bedroom would be theirs. They were pretty thrilled about living together once again, and yet being on their own.
As for myself...
I had a feeling there was something up with this whole set up. Wouldn't it make more sense to build something that was close to the College for when P goes, not closer to their Dad's work? Little alarm bells were going off for me, and hindsight being what it is, I'm wishing now that I had given the kids some kind of a mini heads up of the possibility of their dad leaving his GF, and living there also.
Well, I was correct. Now I guess they are going to finish the basement, so that will be Chris's space. Then Patrick gets the "other" bedroom, NOT the one that he had his heart set on, 'cause gee, guess who is going to be moving in with them. He was RIPPED about this new turn of events!! Man, is their father ever hanging himself with all of this!!
I like to pride myself with not cutting their father down in front of them. If anything, I try to show them things from his point of view. I try to be the mediator, even tho he has no idea I do that for him. Guess secretly, I'm hugging the knowledge to myself that I'm a better person than he is. LOL So old habits are still there - and I'm trying to explain to Patrick that his father has always done things that way. That that is just the way his dad is.
Called Deb R and told her what had occured. Which I had mentioned to her eons ago. Not really a surprise to either of us. Go figure, eh? And to quote her -
"Things like this just reaffirms WHY we are WHERE we are." Good on Deb for always finding the right way to put things! :-)
TTFN
